When my boss, Patrick Booth, asked me to become a manager last year, I said “yes” but I knew I had some challenges ahead of me. There were many leadership lessons I needed to learn to step into the role of Vice President of Sales at CCB Technology.
In preparing for a leadership role, I consumed tons of content from leaders who inspired me and prepared me for challenges I didn’t know were coming. Here’s what I learned in my first year as an executive.
Rewards and difficulties of leadership
Anyone that has been in management for more than 13 minutes knows how it can be when trying to lead well. Sometimes you feel like First Lieutenant Dick Winters, leading troops into enemy territory and overcoming enormous opposition. (Band of Brothers, one of the greatest shows in the history of mankind portrayed Lieutenant Winters’ service.)
Then there are times your life feels like the final scene of There Will Be Blood. Your goals are standing over you like Daniel Day-Lewis yelling “I Drink Your Milkshake!” and you have no clue what just happened… but your pretty certain insanity is present.
“Everything rises and falls on leadership”
So what’s the point? John C. Maxwell, a pastor, author and leadership speaker, said, “Everything rises and falls on leadership.”
That statement is sobering and exciting to me in my role as the VP of Sales. I’ve been given the opportunity to bring people together, cast vision and ultimately find out what I’m made of.
I asked myself some questions… Am I really committed to servant leadership? Do I care if my people like where they work? Are humility, integrity, passion, hunger and fun, core pieces of who I am or just words for a corporate poster? Will I own my mistakes or push my team under the bus as it passes?
There are a hundred questions similar to these that have passed through my head but ultimately, I keep coming back to one in particular: Am I worthy of having followers?
*Clarification: when I say ‘followers’ I’m not talking about social media type followers that think my posts are funny or ‘like’ them. I’m talking about people that look to me as a leader – not because of a title that changed in January – but because of influence.
The question of worthiness has pushed me forward in dozens of small circumstances this year but it has also caused me to venture into areas that I might have otherwise sidestepped.
I’ve never been afraid of having the bat in my hands when the game is on the line. I LOVE that kind of pressure!! I actually prefer that situation because I have confidence in my skill set and feel a degree of control over the outcome. The game is in my hands.
The analogy starts to break down from there though because that isn’t how it works when you have a team reporting to you. Even if I hit a ‘walk-off home-run’, it doesn’t mean my teammates will follow me or that I’ll have influence over them.
What do I do? Throw my hands up and say it’s not worth it? Cut corners and play the game for myself? Or… do I learn all I can about leadership and hone my skills?
Leadership Lessons: “No one drifts into excellence”
When my pastor, Mike Bullmore, says something – people sit up straight and take notice. Not because of his title, the degrees he’s obtained or some fire and brimstone intimidation factor. He’s one of the most humble men I’ve ever met, and yet, in almost every interaction I’ve had with Mike, he’s been direct, inquisitive, and approachable. If Mike gives advice, you know it’s for your edification. So when I heard him say in a sermon, “no one drifts into excellence”, it caused me to pause and literally take note. The context wasn’t business, but the lesson applies.
Jerry Rice, Warren Buffet, Michael Phelps, Whitney Houston, Michael Jordan, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Jerry Seinfeld…none of these people drifted to the top of their profession. They trained, studied, bombed, air-balled, forgot the words, practiced and then did it again and again. It takes work to make it look easy.
Here’s what I’m doing so far this year to put what I’ve learned into practice.
- Write down yearly goals
- Break down the yearly goals into smaller, quarterly goals
- Establish disciplines that, if followed, will help to hit quarterly goals
- Write down the frequency each discipline will be practiced
Seems simple, except I’m not that good. I learned in Michael Hyatt’s Seven Principles for Setting Goals at Work and am using his full focus planner as my personal trainer. It’s tough… but it’s working. For whatever reason, the simple act of writing down the disciplines many times a week/month…etc. keeps me accountable. A nice side effect of doing this has been relief at the end of each week. When I look back at all I’ve written down, I see things I accomplished that actually matter. Not once have I cataloged replying to a few hundred emails, but somehow when I put first things first my inbox is cleared also.
At about the two-week mark of using the planner, I added a sixth step to the above five.
- Tell my wife, boss & team what I’m doing
Now I’ve got 20-ish people involved in the process instead of just me. If I slip, I’ve got a bunch of people that will notice. The pessimistic side of me started to think I was going to have micro-mangers at every turn – the opposite has been true.
Questions came up because they were intrigued. Not because they were trying to catch me losing. Wait! What?! Yep. I backed into gaining a few cheerleaders who seemed to feel like they were part of my progress!
One Saturday my wife mentioned how much of a difference there is in how I am with the kids since I started getting up early to workout, read…etc. as opposed to staying in bed, getting a little more sleep and rushing out the door in the morning.
Guess what one of my disciplines was? Yep again. Wake up 60 minutes before the kids so that I can drink a glass of water with apple cider vinegar, work out, read, and make breakfast for the family. Five times a week.
That got me thinking about what happened when I wasn’t intentional about my schedule. I drowned in calendar invites and by the weekend I was irritated and distracted by my inbox of unread emails. By increasing the ‘focused intentionality’ of my schedule, there was an impact on my home life and how I felt physically. (Maybe the work is going to be worth it.)
Fast forward a few more weeks and as I look around the room during a meeting I see two people with my same planner. Being the sick individual I am, my first thought was that they were pulling a prank on me or something. Turns out they were listening and watching.
I still have a lot to learn!
Having a wife, four kids (oldest is seven), being a new executive and still wanting to play softball every once in a while is tough to balance. It’s not easy but it’s worth the effort.
Maybe you decide to not watch Netflix until the weekend and instead listen to a book on Audible. Or how about popping in the earbuds when you wash dishes and check out a podcast? How can you use the whitespace in your drive to work? Should you get the kids lunches and your work clothes ready the night before?
I’m convinced I’ll never have this leadership thing mastered. Every time I learn something, it seems I’ve got three more things to learn. Maybe that’s why I’m drawn to it.
Asking myself again today, “Am I worthy of having followers?” my answer is a little different than it was eight months ago and I’m good with it. I’m not there yet but I’m on my way.
If you identify with what I’ve mentioned, I’d love to connect with you and hear what tools you’re discovering.